There are revered, profitable, proficient, efficient trainers at practically each level alongside the spectrum of “hardness.” (Personally, I believe the easiest trainers are inclined to have very good steadiness of the varied rules alongside the vast majority of the spectrum, and might shift themselves because the animal and scenario calls for, however that may be a subject for one more day.)
These nearer the “laborious” finish are inclined to espouse messages round robust management and bounds, and never letting your animal turn out to be pushy, spoiled, wild—they are usually massive on readability and agency authority.
These nearer the “tender” finish are inclined to espouse messages round listening to your animal, serving to him discover calmness and rest, ensuring his wants are met and he’s snug, tender, relaxed—they are usually massive on empowering, motivating, encouraging.
Generally, I believe house owners who’re close to the tender finish of the spectrum would enhance essentially the most by spending the vast majority of their time listening to trainers who’re nearer to the laborious finish, and house owners close to the laborious finish would enhance essentially the most by primarily listening to trainers nearer the tender finish. Not that anybody ought to really feel compelled to go “too far” outdoors what appears moral and proper to them–fairly the alternative, it is very important work with trainers whose methods make sense and really feel good and proper to you, however usually listening to trainers a bit within the course reverse your leaning will maximize development and studying and make it easier to to turn out to be a extra balanced coach with larger breadth and depth.
What’s attention-grabbing is that the alternative tends to occur—tender house owners are drawn to tender trainers whose messages sound and really feel acquainted and cozy to them, and they also reinforce or exacerbate their inherent imbalance; and laborious house owners search out laborious trainers who have a tendency to bolster or exacerbate their innate proclivities.
That is additionally true with politics, metaphysics, media, life: it is very important search out these whose central ethics and beliefs overlap with yours, however if you happen to consistently encompass your self solely with like-minded specialists who affirm and reinforce your inclinations, development is slower and fewer sure than if you happen to additionally search out, and genuinely contemplate, these whose views will push you to query your tendencies and contemplate various views.